Ephesians 2:19 - “So then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God.”
Here, Paul is describing a transition in our relationship with a house, the household of God. Through Christ, our relationship with God transitioned from being strangers and aliens to adopted sons of God (Ephesians 1:5; 1 John 3:1, Galatians 4:4-7). Scripture often uses a family picture to describe the reality of our relationship with God and other believers. God is our Father, believers are our brothers and sisters, and the church is described not as a building but as a household.
When a person’s position changes, so does their role and responsibility. In a healthy household, every member has a role (Romans 12:4). Parents nurture, uphold and enforce the standards of the household. Children learn and grow. Siblings care for one another in accordance with the standards of the household. No one is expected to do everything, but everyone is expected to do something. In the same way, the church thrives when each member embraces their place, position and responsibility within God’s family.
So then, if the church is merely a place we visit, then attendance is optional and involvement is minimal. But if the church is a household,
then participation becomes natural. Families share life together - they celebrate, grieve, serve, forgive and grow side by side (Romans 12:15; 1 Thessalonians 5:11, Galatians 6:2). Belonging changes posture from spectator to participator.
Before as a visitor it was okay to enter a house, see the dirty dishes in a sink and not feel compelled to wash them, but now, as a member of that house, not washing the plates can create imbalance and tension in the household. Here is the difference between visitors and family. Visitors observe, they can remain detached and enjoy the benefits without carrying the weight. Family, however, participates, they show up even when it’s inconvenient, take ownership and honour their responsibility in ensuring balance and health in the house.When we live as adopted sons rather than visitors, the church becomes more than a weekly gathering. It becomes a living household where love is practiced, participation is necessary and God’s presence is made visible through His people (Hebrews 10:24-25).